Verbal Self-Defense

Verbal self defense has three special words.  When you use verbal self defense, you can put a stop to an argument before it turns into something strikingly unpleasant. Most, if not all, arguments tend to be about something trivial or even silly. Let’s look at a silly example that demonstrates the defusing power of three simple words and verbal self defense in action.

When someone is verbally abusing you, mildly or viciously, simply agree with him or her - that’s right, agree!

Silly example

A person might say loudly and somewhat unpleasantly:

"HEY, YOU JUST PUT YOUR JUNK IN MY GARBAGE BIN… GET IT OUT, NOW!"

You know that it is not their garbage bin at all, so you could say in the same tone of voice, chest out:

"IT'S NOT YOUR GARBAGE BIN, I'LL PUT IT WHEREVER I LIKE!"

Or, you could defuse the situation with verbal self defense by saying in a quiet voice, shoulders slumped, head lowered. "Yes you’re right, sorry, I'll take it out." Instead of inflaming the situation, you will DEFUSE it.

They get what they want and go away.

Try both ways with family, friends, and people you work and play with. Watch what happens. The response will be very different indeed.

"Yes you’re right," will defuse at lightning fast speed… use it often for verbal self defense.

Yes you’re right, followed quickly by words that express their point-of-view, will defuse most people, most of the time. It will prove very difficult for someone to argue with someone who agrees with them… it just doesn’t work!

A question to ask yourself

If you're automatically using reaction number one (chest out), or reaction number two for that matter, in your day to day life, ask yourself this question from now on:

Does it really matter to me?

If the answer is, "No," or even, "Not really." Let the dog have its bone.

When you find yourself in the midst of a heated discussion, ask yourself, "Does it really matter to me?" Most of the time you will be strong enough in yourself to be able to say "No or Not really."

Try it

The next time you disagree with someone’s point of view, try using the, "Yes you’re right" verbal self defense technique. Over time, it will save you a lot of stress. It may even stop a fight from taking place.

Conclusion

"Yes you’re right" will defuse at lightning fast speed… use it often for verbal self defense.

This article is the first of three articles (found on this website):

1. Verbal Self Defense

2. Why People Fight and Argue over Nothing  Click here

3. What to do when Someone you know Hits You  Click here

Bookmark Self-Defense Now, enjoy your visit, tell a friend, and return soon!

"Can't find what you're looking for? Try Google Search!"

	Web www.self-defense-secrets.com